Comments on: Interests and the pursuit thereof http://marklindner.info/blog/2008/01/24/interests-and-the-pursuit-thereof/ Sat, 04 Feb 2012 21:54:43 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: 3rd blogging anniversary and welcome to new readers http://marklindner.info/blog/2008/01/24/interests-and-the-pursuit-thereof/comment-page-1/#comment-14705 3rd blogging anniversary and welcome to new readers Tue, 29 Jan 2008 14:38:57 +0000 http://marklindner.info/blog/2008/01/24/interests-and-the-pursuit-thereof/#comment-14705 [...] path for a generalist; that is actively taking. Much of my time is taken up by this. [See this post and comments for some comments on the curse of being a generalist; and also of having an “actively [...] [...] path for a generalist; that is actively taking. Much of my time is taken up by this. [See this post and comments for some comments on the curse of being a generalist; and also of having an “actively [...]

]]> By: Mark http://marklindner.info/blog/2008/01/24/interests-and-the-pursuit-thereof/comment-page-1/#comment-14632 Mark Fri, 25 Jan 2008 23:10:50 +0000 http://marklindner.info/blog/2008/01/24/interests-and-the-pursuit-thereof/#comment-14632 Certainly. But is not any of my three bosses. Certainly. But is not any of my three bosses.

]]> By: ChaCha http://marklindner.info/blog/2008/01/24/interests-and-the-pursuit-thereof/comment-page-1/#comment-14631 ChaCha Fri, 25 Jan 2008 23:01:10 +0000 http://marklindner.info/blog/2008/01/24/interests-and-the-pursuit-thereof/#comment-14631 Anonymity....check. In a public library, "petulance" is pretty much your frenemy. Maybe you're not the confrontational type, I dunno. You shouldn't have a hard time walking away from conversations that you're not into. How you execute this might be open for interpretation. It is not, however, surprising to find people who think their poop don't stink. If this person pays you to be at work, feign interest. It's also called "politics." Anonymity….check.
In a public library, “petulance” is pretty much your frenemy. Maybe you’re not the confrontational type, I dunno. You shouldn’t have a hard time walking away from conversations that you’re not into. How you execute this might be open for interpretation. It is not, however, surprising to find people who think their poop don’t stink. If this person pays you to be at work, feign interest. It’s also called “politics.”

]]> By: Mark http://marklindner.info/blog/2008/01/24/interests-and-the-pursuit-thereof/comment-page-1/#comment-14629 Mark Fri, 25 Jan 2008 22:01:06 +0000 http://marklindner.info/blog/2008/01/24/interests-and-the-pursuit-thereof/#comment-14629 Kirsten, yes they are. ChaCha, good question and, on one hand, I see how it might provide more context but, on the other, it could serve no real purpose either. This post is both blind and semi-blind. Most people will have no idea of what the topic is and who the person is, which is as it should be. I am <em>not</em> trying to embarrass my co-worker. A couple of people in the world (if they read this--I have no idea) will know of what I speak. My main point--and anecdotally one other person agreed with me wholeheartedly this morning--is that I [and they] have so many interests--even intense interests--that must be actively ignored if I am to make any progress in life. Perhaps it has to do with being diagnosed ADHD before there were even 4 letters in it and being one of the early Ritalin kids. There simply is too much going on up there. I'm not sure my co-worker's disappointment needs to be framed any better. We all (most? many?) feel disappointed when others are (seemingly) not interested in our business. It can hurt. I'm not denying that as a possibility. But I was attempting to show an interest when I got slapped down for not being interested. Seems a little ass backwards to me if that is your complaint. My gripe is with the ensuing petulance. You might be disappointed and even upset with me, but when I do show an active interest do you "let me in" or send me away with a scolding that I'm not interested? And, no doubt, there could be a completely different side to this story. I shan't try and spell it out though as it is not my side of the story. Kirsten, yes they are.

ChaCha, good question and, on one hand, I see how it might provide more context but, on the other, it could serve no real purpose either. This post is both blind and semi-blind. Most people will have no idea of what the topic is and who the person is, which is as it should be. I am not trying to embarrass my co-worker. A couple of people in the world (if they read this–I have no idea) will know of what I speak.

My main point–and anecdotally one other person agreed with me wholeheartedly this morning–is that I [and they] have so many interests–even intense interests–that must be actively ignored if I am to make any progress in life.

Perhaps it has to do with being diagnosed ADHD before there were even 4 letters in it and being one of the early Ritalin kids. There simply is too much going on up there.

I’m not sure my co-worker’s disappointment needs to be framed any better. We all (most? many?) feel disappointed when others are (seemingly) not interested in our business. It can hurt. I’m not denying that as a possibility. But I was attempting to show an interest when I got slapped down for not being interested. Seems a little ass backwards to me if that is your complaint.

My gripe is with the ensuing petulance. You might be disappointed and even upset with me, but when I do show an active interest do you “let me in” or send me away with a scolding that I’m not interested?

And, no doubt, there could be a completely different side to this story. I shan’t try and spell it out though as it is not my side of the story.

]]> By: ChaCha http://marklindner.info/blog/2008/01/24/interests-and-the-pursuit-thereof/comment-page-1/#comment-14623 ChaCha Fri, 25 Jan 2008 19:17:36 +0000 http://marklindner.info/blog/2008/01/24/interests-and-the-pursuit-thereof/#comment-14623 What is it that you claim to have an interest in? A small blurb on it might have been useful so we can frame your co-worker's disappointment a little better. What is it that you claim to have an interest in?
A small blurb on it might have been useful so we can frame your co-worker’s disappointment a little better.

]]> By: Kirsten http://marklindner.info/blog/2008/01/24/interests-and-the-pursuit-thereof/comment-page-1/#comment-14620 Kirsten Fri, 25 Jan 2008 15:06:38 +0000 http://marklindner.info/blog/2008/01/24/interests-and-the-pursuit-thereof/#comment-14620 Ain't egos grand? Ain’t egos grand?

]]> By: Mark http://marklindner.info/blog/2008/01/24/interests-and-the-pursuit-thereof/comment-page-1/#comment-14604 Mark Fri, 25 Jan 2008 03:25:09 +0000 http://marklindner.info/blog/2008/01/24/interests-and-the-pursuit-thereof/#comment-14604 Jenn!!, your logic has failed you. :( [Here we will make the simplistic equation of interest with having time for. Easier and shorter that way.] I am not interested in petulancy <em>per se</em>, nor even in general, or as regards most people. But that in no way rules out the intersection of interests of varying levels as they merge and/or just overrule each other. So, for instance. Jen!!'s petulancy when it regards me, or even more in general, <em>is</em> an interest of mine. But this in no way implies that I am interested in other people's petulancy, towards me or others. When you are petulant with me--in that special way only you can be--I have given you a reason. I might suggest a class with Allen for you, but I fear his kind of logic would only partially help here. ;) Jenn!!, your logic has failed you. :(

[Here we will make the simplistic equation of interest with having time for. Easier and shorter that way.]

I am not interested in petulancy per se, nor even in general, or as regards most people. But that in no way rules out the intersection of interests of varying levels as they merge and/or just overrule each other.

So, for instance. Jen!!’s petulancy when it regards me, or even more in general, is an interest of mine.

But this in no way implies that I am interested in other people’s petulancy, towards me or others.

When you are petulant with me–in that special way only you can be–I have given you a reason.

I might suggest a class with Allen for you, but I fear his kind of logic would only partially help here. ;)

]]> By: Jen!! http://marklindner.info/blog/2008/01/24/interests-and-the-pursuit-thereof/comment-page-1/#comment-14602 Jen!! Fri, 25 Jan 2008 03:10:28 +0000 http://marklindner.info/blog/2008/01/24/interests-and-the-pursuit-thereof/#comment-14602 Personally, I'm very sad to find that you no longer have time for petulancy. Personally, I’m very sad to find that you no longer have time for petulancy.

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